Navigating the Christmas Holidays: A Counsellor’s Guide for Maltese Parents
### Parenting through the Christmas Holidays – A Counsellor’s Perspective
As the festive season approaches, the vibrant streets of Valletta and the twinkling lights adorning Mdina evoke a sense of joy and togetherness. Christmas in Malta is not just a time for celebration; it is also a significant period for families, where traditions and values are passed down through generations. However, amidst the excitement, the holidays can be a challenging time for parents. To gain insight into navigating these complexities, we spoke with local counsellor, Dr. Maria Vella, who specializes in family dynamics.
#### The Joy and Pressure of the Holidays
Dr. Vella highlights that while Christmas is often filled with joy, it can also bring about stress for parents. “There’s a lot of pressure to create a perfect holiday experience,” she explains. From decorating the house to preparing elaborate meals and buying gifts, the expectations can feel overwhelming. In Malta, where family gatherings are central to the Christmas spirit, parents may feel the weight of ensuring everyone has a memorable time.
Moreover, the financial strain that often accompanies holiday spending can add to this stress. Many families in Malta are facing economic challenges, and the desire to provide a magical Christmas can conflict with the reality of budgeting. Dr. Vella suggests that parents should focus on the meaning behind the holidays rather than material aspects. “It’s important to remember that the essence of Christmas lies in togetherness, love, and gratitude, rather than the extravagance of gifts.”
#### Balancing Tradition and Modern Life
In Maltese culture, Christmas is rich with traditions, from the Feast of the Immaculate Conception to the Midnight Mass on Christmas Eve. Dr. Vella emphasizes the importance of integrating these traditions into family life, but also acknowledges that modern life can sometimes detract from them. “Parents should strive to maintain traditions that resonate with their family values while also being flexible enough to adapt to changing lifestyles,” she advises.
One way to achieve this balance is by involving children in the planning and execution of holiday activities. Whether it’s baking traditional Christmas sweets like “qagħaq tal-għasel” or creating handmade decorations, these activities can foster a sense of belonging and teach children the significance of their cultural heritage.
#### Managing Expectations and Emotions
The holidays can also bring about a mix of emotions, particularly for families dealing with loss or change. Dr. Vella notes, “It’s normal for parents to feel a range of emotions during this time. The key is to communicate openly with children about feelings, allowing them to express their own emotions.” This open dialogue can help children understand that it’s okay to feel sad or anxious, especially if they are missing loved ones.
Moreover, parents should be mindful of their own emotional well-being. Engaging in self-care practices, whether it’s taking a quiet moment for oneself or seeking support from friends and family, can help alleviate the stress that often accompanies the holiday season.
#### Community Support and Engagement
In Malta, the community plays a crucial role in supporting families during the festive season. Local initiatives, such as food drives and charity events, provide opportunities for families to give back. Dr. Vella encourages parents to involve their children in these activities, reinforcing the values of kindness and empathy. “Participating in community events not only helps those in need but also brings families closer together,” she says.
Additionally, local councils often organize family-friendly activities, such as Christmas markets and concerts, which can serve as an excellent way for families to bond and create lasting memories.
#### Conclusion
Parenting during the Christmas holidays in Malta presents a unique blend of joy, tradition, and challenges. By focusing on the true spirit of the season, maintaining open communication, and engaging with the community, parents can navigate this festive time with greater ease. Ultimately, it’s about creating cherished memories that will resonate long after the decorations are taken down.
